How can we raise godly daughters in a sexually sinful world?

I am about to embark on a topic that is seldom written about, but yet is inundated within our society today. And IT is stealing our children right from under our noses, especially our daughters!

I want to address the question that is being asked, “How can we raise godly daughters in a sexually sinful world?” Even though, the sin twisted mind of society is attacking our sons as well, I want to specifically address the dangers of our daughter growing up in a sexually minded generation today. (I may address our sons in another sitting.)

As a mother of a 19 year old daughter and a Pastors Wife that has worked with teen agers for many years, I can assure you, our teens of today have sexual immorality in their face DAILY! They cannot escape it, it can be found on all of the television sitcoms, it is on the movie screens, it is sung about on the radio and it is all up and down your teens school hallway and on all of their social media!

Teen sexuality is no longer a topic that we can sweep under the rug and not talk about. Last year, a survey was conducted among U.S. High School Students:

• Nearly 50% surveyed had already been sexually active.
• 34% of those who have been active, were sexually active within the past 3 months.
• 40% of those teens being active, did not use protection the last time they had sex.
• 15% of those surveyed have had sexual intercourse with 4 or more partners already. (mind you we are talking about teens!)

As a mother of a teen girl myself, I find these statistics heart wrenching! The statistics of the consequences of such behavior is just as startling…

• An estimated 8,300 young people between the ages of 13-24 have reported to be HIV positive in the previous year. (US stats)
• Nearly half of the 19 million reporting NEWLY acquired sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) are among young people ages 15-24 years old.
• More than 400,000 teen girls, ages 15-19, gave birth last year.

With numbers like these, (and the numbers are steadily going up), it is no longer acceptable to hand our daughters a pamphlet and hope for the best. We MUST get in their world, get in their face and tell them of the dangers of living in a sexually immoral world!

SNAPCHAT…If your daughter is taking a lot of “selfies”, no doubt she has a SNAPCHAT account. Snapchat is a social media trend that allows you to share a picture with someone for just a few seconds and then it disappears. Sending funny faces is not all that you teen is using this for. Teens are sending naked pictures to one another with the thought that it can only be viewed for a few seconds and no one will ever know about it! Our daughters may be pulled into the thrill of this, to send a sexy picture of herself, so to feel accepted or wanted. However, there are 3 great dangers of this that she (and you) may not be aware of…

• 1.  The sensual pictures that she snaps to a boy is a turn on to him, even if she is partially clothed. This starts his engine and he WILL come back for more and demand less clothing. Girls sending the wrong message to guys will end up with a bad ending. She may even rev the engine too tight that the boy will send her porn links to view with him. (Yes..I have personally known nice “Christian” guys do this to girls)
• 2. The sexy picture your daughter has sent out may only be viewed by the receiver for a few seconds, however, did you know that the receiver has the ability to take a “screenshot”? Which means they can actually save the image on their phone or computer, which now becomes the property of theirs to look at as often as they want or share with whomever they want.
• 3. Snapchat administrators have the right to any of your pictures, when your teen signs up for this social networking, they agree to this. Even though the pictures sent can only be viewed for few seconds, it remains in the Snapchat’s master file. Please keep in mind that NOTHING shared on the web is private!

• 400 million snaps are sent a day.
• 2% of ALL college students use snapchat to specifically send “sext” pictures.
• 4.6 million snapchat users had their personal info leaked to the internet in 2014

1. First of all, we MUST lead by example. Mom, if you want your daughter to dress modestly, YOU dress modestly. If you don’t want your daughter to watch shows or movies with sexual suggestions, YOU don’t watch them. Our daughters are watching us and we teach the best by example.
2. Secondly, we MUST teach our daughters to have self respect and self worth. She is bombarded with a world that says “eat this”, “wear this”, “become this”, “stay away from that”. We must teach our girls that self worth does not come from the outer appearance, but from within. God looks at the heart and His approval is the one that she needs. Self worth cannot be found in looks, or accomplishment or whom she dates, self worth can only be found in Christ!
3. Thirdly, it is imperative that we offer our daughters an alternative to the world’s view of sexuality. Refute myths about sex with the truth! We, as mothers, must be the primary source of information about sexuality. Offer a lot of accurate information, refute the common myths such as “everyone is doing it”, “it isn’t sex if you don’t go all the way” or “it is alright because we love each other”. Do not be afraid to share the scary statistics and most importantly, show her what the Bible says about remaining pure and how God designed sex to be between one man and one woman when they become married. Today’s society has stripped away the beauty that God designed sex to be. We MUST teach our daughters that God will reward them for being pure with their bodies. God knew the heartache that would come if we would give pieces of our heart away instead of preserving our whole heart for that one that He designed for us.

“Training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in the present age.” -Titus 2:12

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