Why me?

Have you ever whispered these two little words, hoping no one hears the whining in your voice?

Ever shouted them out in a full blown “pity party?”

Or, have you ever listened to a loved one tearfully question their circumstances as you listen, heartbroken for them?

Does it ever seem like some people have a harder time in life than others? More things seem to go WRONG in life….hospital visits, job lay offs, losses of loved ones….

“Why me, God? Why is it always ME????”

As I was pondering this, it occurred to me that maybe it isn’t just “ME”. Maybe “things” aren’t “perfect” in others’ lives- as they seem.

We don’t always see the hardships of others- those who bear their burdens alone.

We don’t see the new mother quietly suffering from Postpartum Depression, crying every sleepless night.

We don’t realize our friend is a closet bulimic. She hides her terrible secret as she is caught in a bottomless pit of binging and purging, slowing destroying her body.

We are unaware that sweet girl who checks out at the grocery store is suffering from the abuse of her father. We don’t know that each day she hears, and believes that she is worthless.

We don’t know that the young mom at church is battling cancer. She doesn’t share her struggle with “strangers,” but chooses to battle alone.

Some of us bear scars from childhood- perhaps abuse or molestation.

Some are still suffering from unkind words from adolescence- teasing about being overweight or having acne or wearing braces- embarrassing words that still sting years later.

We can often get caught in a trap, thinking we are the only one who suffers, who is suffering. We can mistakenly assume that “everyone else’s” life is wonderful. But, Jesus tells us that we will ALL endure trials here on earth. But, Jesus gives us tremendous hope, promising that He has overcome the world!

Paul, in his letter to the church in Corinth, shares his suffering and pain, but always enveloped in his message of hope through Jesus Christ.

“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body…..Therefore, we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” -2 Corinthians 4:8:10, 16-17

Through Jesus, we have HOPE eternal! And, our temporary trials and suffering can not even compare to the hope we have!

Especially at this time of year, share with others both your difficult circumstances and the HOPE, peace, and joy you experience through Jesus. Let others know that they are NOT the only ones experiencing difficult times. Encourage them by sharing Christ’s love.

Paul begins his letter by praising this mighty God and encouraging us to COMFORT one another.

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.”

Lord, may I always be a positive encourager. God, give me eyes to see the hurting. Open my eyes to those who need my comfort. Help me not to focus on my trials, Lord, but on You, Jesus and my glorious hope in have in You. In Your precious name I pray. Amen.



9 thoughts on “Why me?

  1. Laurie Adams

    What a great reminder especially this time of year that people around us are hurting and sometimes we get so busy with the hustle and bustle of life that we don’t see beyond our own circumstances. When I find myself in a tight spot – I always try to praise God for my circumstances because I know that somewhere someone is suffering far worse than me. All you have to do is visit a mission house or a childrens hospital or the hospice ward to see how blessed you are!

    Thanks for sharing today.

  2. Janna

    Tracy, what you said is so true. People are hurting everywhere but we just don’t know it. We should ask ourselves “Why are these poor souls suffering alone?” Perhaps because someone judged them for being too “negative” at a tough point in their lives when they did share.

    All of us should be less judgmental of those who need a listening ear. I’m not talking about judgment of the thing being discussed, but about the fact that it is being discussed. We need to be longsuffering as Jesus was, bearing the burdens of others through their tough times, and not being afraid to share how we also live not so perfect lives.

    Thanks for your words today.

  3. MarshaMarsha

    This time of year seems to make this question surface even more. The American media puts the pressure on for picture perfect everything.

    For so many years, I was one of those who bore shame secretly and always thought I was the only one at church that had ‘issues’. How freeing it was when The Bondage Breaker set me free! Now it’s no longer the question of Why me, Lord?, but rather, Who may I come alongside, Lord? He’s honored that request in the form of giving me a ministry to hurting women and teen girls.

    Thanks, Tracy for helping us to be aware of those hurting around us.

  4. BP

    Thank you for sharing. This is so true, sometimes we feel all alone when it reality others are hurting too. I think it’s important to step out and help others when you know they are going down a similar road you’ve experienced (lilke a death of a loved one or miscarriage). So many people don’t understand but if you’ve been there you have a better idea what they’re facing.

  5. Sue

    Thank you for this! Just recently someone said to me, “It may be raining in your world but it’s flooding in someone else’s.” I pray that our eyes will be opened wide to others around us!

  6. Julie

    Thank you for sharing this post! It is so nice to read encouragement from God’s Word, to the one who might not be merry, or to the one going through a difficult time. May you continue to minister to many!

    God’s blessing to you. May He hide you close to His heart!

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