Be self-controlled
This is the fourth in a series, following, “Be sweet,” “Be gentle,” and “Be faithful.” Self control is another “fruit of the spirit” that we desperately need today. Yes, we need “self” control, but we can only exert “self” control when we allow God to control us.
What is self control, and how do we employ it in our lives, by God’s grace? According to Dictionary.com, self control is “the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations.” So restraining ourselves, maintaining composure, mastering our emotions and actions are all a part of self control.
Here’s the thing. Self control doesn’t magically appear when we need it. Self control needs to be nurtured on a daily basis, so when we do need it, with God’s help we can call upon our reserves of self control.
If we have a problem with our tongue, and speak rashly, or harshly, or judgmentally, we need to work on harnessing our tongue. We can cultivate a listening spirit and demonstrate self control on a daily basis, so when we find ourselves in a difficult or stressful situation, we can maintain control and not lash out in anger or hurt.
If we have a problem with our appetite, whether for food or anything else that can be harmful in excess, again, we can submit that appetite to our will on a daily basis, so if we pass by a chocolate shop (mmm) we won’t be tempted to walk in and buy more than we should!
If we have a problem managing our time, and end up spending too much time on unproductive activities–social media, television, games on the phone, etc.–only when we exert discipline and control our time on a regular basis will we be able to manage our time when life gets especially busy and stressful. I have very clear memories of one of my bosses and his very disciplined time management. He had just about every hour of every day planned out, including devotions, exercise, and time with family. He followed Stephen Covey’s (Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) methods and divided all his daily tasks into these four quadrants. It’s a very helpful way to get control over our time.
Self control is not important as an end goal. Self control enables us to live for God and fulfill His purposes for our lives. To fulfill the purposes to which God has called us requires our self control, so that we are ready to hear His voice, follow His calling on our lives, and serve Him.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Katie. I really need to get my time management under control. I waste a lot of time with unproductive activities. May the Lord give me wisdom to manage my time better.
Yes, Iris – I feel the time wasters around us are more prevalent and enticing than when we were growing up. Let’s keep each other in prayer.
Great post Katie. Self control isn’t always easy but like some of the things you mention, it is possible to learn to control them. The Holy Spirit helps me when I’m out of control, I need help everyday!
We all need help every day! Amen.