For Those Who Are Hurting On Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is extremely difficult for many of us. The pain in our hearts seems to be magnified on days that the world tells us we’re to be happy and celebratory.
You may be missing your own mother terribly. On days like Mother’s Day, the longing to hear her voice, give her a hug and tell her “I love you” linger in your thoughts. To be honest, she lingers in your thoughts every day.
Maybe your Mother is still living but you are estranged. She wounded you deeply as a child and you find it difficult to find an appropriate card for her or to show her honor. I understand how you feel, only for me, it was a difficult relationship with my abusive father and Father’s Day was difficult.
Some of you have had to go through a Mother’s worst nightmare, you’ve buried your child, and a piece of your heart has been ripped from your chest. My heart hurts for you. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I pray those close to you will share a memory of your child.
The world elevates and celebrates Motherhood, and there you are, so wanting to be a Mommy, but you are unable to conceive, your heart aches and your arms yearn to hold a child of your own.
I know your heart aches and it hurts deeply. You’re brokenhearted and may be feeling as though it can never be mended again. Let me encourage you to rest completely in Him. Give Him your heart ache. And don’t be afraid to ask Him why this has happened to you; just remember to ask with open hands and not clinched fists.
I don’t know the answer to your why question, but I know the Who, and He loves you and wants to walk with you through this pain.
Dr. Joe Stowell said in his book, The Upside of Down: Finding Hope When It Hurts, “If we are to find hope and help when it hurts, we must begin with the Who of it all. We must hope in the certainty of what is true about God. If we choose not to cultivate our hope in Him, where will we place our hope? Is there anything greater, more just, more equitable, more powerful, more reliable, and truer than God?”
When waves of grief swell to unimaginable heights, then crash and pin you to the ground, it’s hard to imagine ever being able to stand and breathe again. You may feel as though you will never stop crying, never stop grieving, but this I know. . . God is faithful. He will not leave you to walk through this dark place alone. Over time–and it’s different for everyone–the swelling waves will lessen in intensity and frequency.
You will get through this by the grace of God.
“You’ll get through this. It won’t be painless. It won’t be quick. But God will use this mess for good. In the meantime don’t be foolish or naïve. But don’t despair either. With God’s help you will get through this.” ? Max Lucado, You’ll Get Through This: Hope and Help for Your Turbulent Times
You will breathe again and find yourself standing in the middle of the intersection known as Joy and Sorrow. That place where you are able to rest in the steady flow of Hope, the healing salve that heals the wound and enables you to remember and mourn your loved one with a mix of joy and sorrow.
For the one who has lost a mother,
For the mother who has lost a child,
For the one who longs to be a mom. . .
You are not forgotten this Mother’s Day.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
How may I pray for you today? Leave your request as a comment below or email me at marsha@marshasmusings.com. I’d be honored to pray with and for you as you walk through this valley.
bless you for this beautiful post my friend, love you
Thank you, sweet friend. Love you and sure do miss you! <3
Thank you for this encouraging message, Marsha.
Thank you, Iris. Praying for you this Mother’s Day.
A message needed for so many hurting. My second Mothers Day without my Mom, thanks for the encouragement.
I’m praying for you, Laurie. My Mom is 93. I know the day is drawing nearer when she’ll be gone. I can’t even begin to fathom what life will be like without her.