The Love Month

It’s February; the love month.  I wish that every month we would live our lives in love.  But that’s not usually the case. 

Lately, it seems that every time I turn on the television there’s a commercial about buying Valentine’s Day gifts.  After a while, women begin to think that if they don’t receive jewelry from Jared’s …they’re obviously not loved.  Frankly, I really dislike that.  It sets up such high expectations.  Many women become sad and depressed, especially if they don’t have a special someone in their life.

I remember as a teen, I was such a romantic.  My mom used to tell me I was in love with love.  I loved the feeling of loving another and being excited when I went on a date.

Too often people fall in love and get married.  After a number of years, I’ve heard friends tell me they’re just not “in love” with their spouse anymore and use that as an excuse to get divorced.  I think our culture has created such high expectations of always feeling that initial high of falling in love. 

I believe love is a choice.  I can tell you from experience that after 25 years of marriage to my husband, I love him more today than the day I got married to him.  However, I don’t always feel that “in love” feeling.  We have our times of highs and lows.  We have to work at making time for each other.  But the reality is that those lustful feelings aren’t always there.  I’m happy for the moments they are but  with jobs, responsibilities and stress; well  you get the picture.  I’m sure many of you understand if you have children.

I want to remind you of where you can find the most awesome love.  As humans we can let each other down.  But God is love.  It is part of His nature.  And you will never be disappointed. 

John 14:21 says “Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me.  He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.”

God loves you so much that He gave His only Son to die for your sins and mine. 

When I really understood that He did that for me (Debbie), I was overwhelmed with love in response.  I don’t need to worry about keeping the rules.  My response of obedience comes from the love in my  heart.  And it is Christ in me that creates that love. 

Over the years, I have placed layers of protection over my heart because of hurts from people.  But I’ve found that Jesus can penetrate all of those layers when I surrender and open myself up fully to Him.  I’ve not fully arrived yet but I can say that the more I surrender to Him, the more love I actually feel for Him and for others. 

So, be filled with His love.  If you received something for Valentine’s Day …be thankful.

But if not, remember that you are loved by the one true living God who created you and formed you in your mother’s womb.  He knows you better than anyone else and only He can fill those empty spaces in your heart. 

Blessings and love,


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7 thoughts on “The Love Month

  1. eph2810

    Ha – guess what my anti-spam word is? LOVE 🙂

    Oh, Debbie, you have so spoken from my heart. I so agree with the Valentine’s commercials they are airing. I didn’t get jewelery, but I know that I am love by Him and by my husband 🙂

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.

  2. SusanD

    This is such a wonderful post. Today’s youth have such high expectations of getting “stuff” that they are rarely satisfied with non-material things. They equate possessions with emotions. Thank you for your insight. Blessings, SusanD

  3. debbie

    Are you ever so right of course. After 35 years of marriage if there is one thing I can say for sure it is not only are there moments you don’t feel “in love” there are MANY moments you’d love to get as far away from him as you can, haha….Love is a definite choice. And romance? You have to really work at it to keep it alive in your marriage. But worth every moment. If there is one thing I’ve hammered with all of my kids before they married is this reality. CHOSE to love, CHOSE to keep romance alive, and KNOW the only one who will NEVER let you down is HIM. This was a great post Deb. Blessings, Debbie

  4. Lori

    “I want to remind you of where you can find the most awesome love. As humans we can let each other down. But God is love.”

    Amen Debbie!!!

  5. bp

    Awwww Debbie. I love this!
    The line that really spoke to me as I was reading was so short and simple yet so powerful…..God IS love.

    That is such a great thing to think about how He loves us and love is Him and we are to be that love to others.